Values and Their Importance in Romantic Relationships

Lilit Amiraghyan


Value is a moral, social, or aesthetic belief accepted by an individual as a guide to what is good, desirable, or important.

Values are our non-conscious and hidden motivators, which fuel our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors. They are chosen by us and are firm, but not rigid. Values can be constructive and health-promoting, or destructive and unhealthy.

As core values are a big part of our personality, knowing the person's core values, we can know his/her nature as an individual and accordingly we can understand if the person is compatible with us. Sure, if we share the same values with him/her, means our relationship can work. Many couples break up or divorce because they don't realize how important it is to have the same values for having a working relationship.

5 Questions, Answering to Which, You Can Find Out Which are Your Core Values:
  1. What makes you feel fulfilled?

  2. Which would be the happiest moment of your life and why?

  3. Which would be the saddest and the most unhappy day of your life and why?

  4. Which is the goal of your life?

  5. If it was the last day of your life, how would you spend it?